Monday we learned that The Universe either sends us lessons (or what we’ve been manifesting). Truthfully, everything in life is a lesson. No one is your friend, no one is your enemy. Everyone is your teacher. Lessons are why our souls took this body, to pass tests, break cycles, and evolve as much as possible in this lifetime. But how do we detect lessons? Or more importantly, how do we decode the lessons (or tests) The Universe is sending us?
Detecting A Lesson
MULTIPLES | An easy way to start detecting them until your lesson goggles are very well tuned and clear is by understanding that – like signs – they show up in multiples. The big ones always do. This is literally The Universe shouting at you to wake up and grow. And The Universe is very generous at giving you lesson after lesson until you pass.
WEIGHTED | You’ll know a lesson is around because you’ll feel extra energetically heavy. The way one feels during Mercury in Retrograde. Things just feel tougher than usual, sluggish, not in your favor. Sniff it out. There is a lesson around.
RED FLAG | everything you’ve been manifesting shows up in the physical form, but it’s attached to red flags. The job you’ve been manifesting appears and has everything on your list, but the boss is awful and puts you down. This is a lesson to see how much you value your dignity and happiness. And how much you trust that if you turn this job down, The Universe will send you an even more perfect job than you manifested with an amazing boss. Lesson passed. Another self-worth block shifted.
The partner you’ve been manifesting appears. Literally everything on your list. But he/she isn’t emotionally available. Red flag. This person is a lesson to test how much self-worth you have. How much you’re willing to settle for.
You’ve been manifesting to make a certain amount weekly from your freelance company ($2,000/ wk) but only $700 keeps showing up week after week. Red flag. This is a lesson to test if you’re limited programming has been dissolved. If it hasn’t, then the same glass ceiling will continue to present itself over and over until you pass the lesson (clear the block).
SAME THING OVER AND OVER | when the same type of relationships, friendships, jobs that don’t surpass a certain income, problems, energy continue to present itself, there is a lesson/ test to pass (block to remove).
As you’ve probably gathered from above, lessons show up in multiples. They also appear in different forms: people, opportunities, partners, objects, money; etc. Because the same lesson from one aspect of your life transcends into all aspects of your life. And everyone of your lessons are completely a reflection of you, inside. Whatever you’re broadcasting is exactly what you’re receiving.
Ex. A client continues to attract the same archetype of person into her life over and over. A friend that starts out as a fan shifts into her main sidekick. Then learns her entire business and goes out and starts the exact same one in a really low vibration way. This is a lesson. Here is some journaling to do.
-what’s missing inside her that she always needs a sidekick in her life worshiping her?
-Where’s the incompleteness?
-Where did it stem from? Who didn’t give her what she needed when she was little? Who abandoned her? Who created the insecurity in her or placed their insecurity on her that she wasn’t enough?
-Why does she feed off of being idolized? And more importantly, what energy is she projecting to hurt the sidekick’s ego so much that the sidekick would go out and take vengeance?
These are blocks inside the client that need to be healed and shifted. Missing self-worth that needs to be patched up.
Decoding a lesson in your journal
Another client keeps dating emotionally unavailable men that don’t exert the chivalry she’d like to receive. “Dating is so ruthless in NYC” (untrue but society creates this programming, so women and men buy into it). Her main clients are aggressive with her and walk all over her, as do her employers. Her housekeeper keeps blowing off her apartment for the housekeeper’s other clients (before her), and a friend that she’s gotten to do her taxes (because she is lives in lack and is trying to save money on them) blows her off until the last minute.
COMMONALITY | once you’re aware of the multiples that continue showing up in your life, start to investigate. What do each one of these people, situations, opportunities, relationships, energies share in common?
Ex. the commonality is: they are all cheap or make her feel cheap and disrespected. The people are trying to get a deal or undervalue her. She’s receiving less than she’s worth, weird financial disasters continue to happen; etc.
OUCH | why is this making me upset, annoyed, frustrated, jealous, fearful? Once you find out those answers, the real question is, why is this causing me pain?
Ex. I’m annoyed because I’m worth more. I’m fearful because I can’t live on this income. I’m jealous because he would have never treated a woman that he respects like that. I’m frustrated because I was completely taken advantage of financially.
Ex. I’m hurt because none of them respect me.
ME | what programming and belief system does this reflect in you? Where did you pick this up? None of the people involved matter at all. It’s only you and what you’re projecting that matter. So investigate.
Ex. When she was young, her mother was always fearful about where she’d get enough money to live. Everything was a “hot check”. Never enough money for school clothes, food was budgeted, she lied that they’d be out of town because she was too embarrassed to tell her friends/school that they didn’t have enough money for her to attend camp/fieldtrips. Her mother also only dated deadbeats financially and emotionally because she didn’t fell worthy enough of a financial equal (stemming from her mother’s father that never worked/ had addiction issues and allowed his wife to support the family). Her mom always sought out the discount ave with car/house work because she didn’t expand her belief system surrounding money. The mother had also grown up in lack. And didn’t shift the blocks that she was worth more. Even though she’s more successful and evolved, she’s still managed to find herself in the exact same scenario. Because she carries the same root blocks. And they are showing up in all aspects of her life.
I’m not worthy enough (in all aspects of my life). Financially I will never have enough (in all aspects of my life). I don’t deserve to be respected (in all aspects of my life).
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